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Invest in loss

18 Feb


Ok, it may seem like madness, but invest a minute, what have you got to loose?

‘Invest in loss’ was a saying of the great martial artist Chen Man-Ching, he maintained to win one needed to invest in loosing.   The idea comes from Taoist philosophy, yet the heart of the concept is found in cultures around the world.

Chen Man-Ching

Investing in being wrong

Holding on tight to being right without exploring the possibility of being wrong, what a waste!  Scared that you may be wrong?  Loose the fear, you may find out you were right all along, but now you will feel more sure and relaxed.   And if you find you were wrong, you have saved time, money and emotional energy not investing in something that was bound to fail.   Invest in being wrong and loosing face…it’s good for you!


Investing in not knowing

Don’t even think you are supposed to know all or even most of the answers.  If you don’t know, admit it to yourself and go find out.  This admission of ‘not knowing’ will lead to learning something new and ultimately ‘knowing’.

However creating the illusion of knowing puts a lot of pressure on you.   You may fool other people and even your self for a moment, but not for long, and the consequences are not good, one ends up looking foolish and wasting a lot of energy.


Investing in unknown opportunities

Invest in letting go of what you don’t need.  Spring clean your home, office, head!  And loose the old, unwanted, unused things you have been holding on too.  Invest in a spring clean and enjoy the space for new opportunities it brings.

Invest in loosing what you don’t need

Investing in losing the ego

The unchallenged and unrefined ego can get us in an awful pickle.   It can be very resistant to our human development, and its desires can lead us into trouble.  The benefits the ego seeks are necessary on a very base human level, but once one has a little self confidence one can start the process of weaning our self off its cravings, cravings not unlike the body’s cravings for sugar and caffeine.  Invest in loosing the grip of your ego, and deepen your experience of your inner nature.


Invest in non resistance

Create a space and time in which ideas can flow you don’t have to take them up but don’t stop them coming or stop others expressing their ideas to you.  If you resist ideas, emotional tension builds up, performance is hampered and energy is wasted in the conflict.  On the plus side, one or two of those ideas them might be amazing.


Invest in loosing your best ideas

 Can your ideas withstand the application of pressure to them?  Or will they buckle.  Are your ideas strong enough to withstand a hammering?  Take your formed idea, apply some pressure, and re form the idea as necessary until it can easily withstand huge pressures without weakening, loosing its structure or folding.  Stress test your idea by investing in loosing it.


Investing in letting go of preconceptions

Virtually every moment of are existence is coloured by our preconceptions, and honestly, a lot of it is plain nonsense.  Invest in letting go of these preconceptions and experience things as they are.  How?  Observe your chattering mind right now…..what is it on about?   Practice the letting go exercise below.

Invest in loss – letting go exercise

 Take regular breaks in your day, morning, noon and evening, not too long 5-20mins.  Close your eyes, take three deep breaths, with each breath feel like your awareness is sinking deeper and deeper into your body.  Focus on the centre of your hands, as you breath in imagine you are applying pressure to them with your thumb, as you breath out let go and feel the area expand, do this for 20/50/100 breaths.

 Chris Shaw teaches stress management and wellbeing workshops in the UK, he live in the English lake district.